Jenni,

Despite your intervention order being an abuse of an instrument to protect women who are truly under threat you have used it to silence a loving Father of a beautiful girl who loves me and vice versa. You have also convinced family and frinds that this was occuring. This is not fair or in anyway reasonable in a modern society. In respect to the issue of violence which you hidden behind and the court has found as a hook to create bias you were just as "physical" with me including hair pulling, throwing of objects, name calling, scratching and gouging etc but that's all in the past and Cat still has needs. All this Catia can confirm and I wasn't prepared to be an abused man.

Under the intepretation of violence by The Family Court every politician in our Parliament could be labelled as violent men or women. This does not reflect how human beings live in a country with free speech and equality in the home and workplace.

While using the protection of an intervention order you have sent me abusive text messages, called my ex girlfriends making disparaging comments and permitted my daughter to call me on Father's Day. She has asked me not to give up. To keep fighting for her rights. She thinks you are thinking only of yourself. When I tell her I've had enough of your silence and the bias she feels the need to solve it herself. She tells me, "don't worry I'll sort it out". This is the implication of your refusal to communicate for periods of time. It's just childish in the extreme and quite frankly I've had a lifetime of being on the end of females who choose to act in a feral manner.

If you watched Sunrise this morning you would have seen that no reasonable thinking person believes that these issues (child custody) should be before the courts - only the most extreme. and the only reason we were before the courts was because Pat interferred in our life and marriage to protect her investment and you wouldn't communicate.

I know you want too keep punishing me using her and creating danger which never existed you will only hurt her.

You can keep being critical of me for the rest of your life - whatever. My parents are the same. I now recognise it is a manifestation of the feminist movement and 1960's attitudes toward men which your mother held and have been adopted by you and still exist in the health and education systems but have long disappeared from other professional circles. That is why we are so far apart and why you will hold negative attitudes toward men like me and be forever critical.

My daughter doesn't hold the same attitudes and is won't be willing to take those on as you have. In fact I doubt she ever will so the longer you prevent her from seeing me and try and punish and demonise me the more it will affect you and certainly her but not necessarily me. I am in the position of living the life I want in an industry that is in boom times but I continue to make the effort to change your stubborn mind for her sake. Your weapons are stubbornness and verbal attack. Helen was the same. I walked away from her but I care for Cat's RIGHT to have positive experiences as she grows up. I am sad that you have never had a reference to growing up in the North of Australia because you would understand what i mean in terms of the relaxed attitudes and the enjoyment of life and the immediate environment.

You know my daughter and I had a great relationship. You know I am a good man and a lover of life and people. You have told me so in the past. It's only your desire to make a change in your life that created a change in attitude. My daughter believes and has told me I am a great Father. Do you want to deny her the ability to exercise her choice and desire to see her Father?
How long do you think you can exercise control over her? If you butt up against her she will make it as hard as she wants. You only have one daughter so surely you want to maintain a good relationship with her over your life.

You should understand how fortunate you are. There are many women in the situation in which their ex partners have NO interest in their kids. That is a reality across Australia. Even men who have sons don't want to stay in touch with them at anytime of the year even Christmas. I know what that feels like. It is degrading and creates a sense of being useless and undervalued.

It's past time you started communicating about such an important issue as Cat's needs. If you don't the longer this goes on the more you will create a gap between you and her. She will resent you for it and trust me resentment has a long memory.


In response to your suggestions I move on with my life I don't even need to comment. The proof is there in front of you despite your efforts to be destructive in the extreme. Oh and your prediction that I would find a "yes" woman could not be further from the truth. Sorry.

I hope you can start to consider Catia's needs now she is a teenager and is still lucky enough to have two parents.

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Paula Sullivan paula_sullivan@travelctm.com	12:55 PM (2 hours ago)
to me

Dont be offended but using the word Peril makes me laugh !! it is far to perilous !!

And as for respect Roger then what about respecting her child and her need to see her dad ?  unless you have done something really bad then she has no reason to stop you seeing your daughter – I think I would have more reason to stop Andrew as he is violent !! but I don’t I try and encourage him to be a better person.

Get something going ................... hey I know of a guy who kidnapped his kids and the police paid him a visit and they asked the kids what they thought ? he still has them , she was a mess though ( his ex ) and wasn’t looking after them properly , but still there has to be a way for you to get around the bullshit !!

Paula Sullivan

Corporate Consultant

Roger
I have blocked all of your email adresses and will continue to block any emails that you send. You seem to think that what you are doing is acceptable. It is clearly in breach of the Intervention Order. I know what your address is and I am just about to inform the police of such. This will mean that they will execute the warrant out for your arrest and will likely result in implications associated with your breach of the Intervention orders.
Your lack of insight and flagrant lack of respect is exactly why a judgement was made against you.
You constantly refer to your "moving on with your life" but I seriously doubt that. You have never had the ability to move on
Your continued harrassment will be at your own peril.

The feminist trojan horse in Family Law

Well my son is suffering through lack of male contact he does miss his dad and now thinks his dad hates him! I just want to love him more to make up! I agree with you. What is wrong with the world when my ex just dumps his kids and you want a relationship but are being stopped fucking wrong!

News about Family Law

What received more news time today being the 24/11/11?

A. The nurses dispute for a wage claim by a militant union
B. The accidental termination of an unborn child by a hospital
C. the regressive changes to Family Law reversing changes made by the Howard Government in 2006 to encourage a relationship between a child and the Father.

The answer is A and the most important issue of Family Law was swept under the carpet and received only 10 minutes on the ABC with a sceptical interviewer. While the rest of the world moves forward in an effort to improve, the legal system resorts to regression in efforts to protect it's position and professional relationships.

The children will never come first. NEVER. They are abandoned and men are pilaried by lies. This is a disfunctional system that has not been reformed since 1976

My Life with a Nurse: A Man's Perspective

Ah, such mysterious, wondrous creatures are nurses. What treasures lurk beneath those crisp, white uniforms....What young man doesn't have fantasies of discovering those secrets for himself.

SCREEEEEECH!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reality check!

I've been married to a nurse for more than a quarter of a century, and let me tell you, nurses are not what you expect (and I don't even care what you expect, because you are wrong)!

Let's begin by tearing down some of the more famous assumptions about nurses right off the top:

The Nurse as Sex Kitten:

Any man who lived through the early seventies or has made it a point to rent such famous videos as "Night Duty Nurses" or "Student Nurses" or "Night Duty Student Nurses" or any one of several dozen nurse-centric skin flicks will
mmediately believe that all nurses have heaving bosoms, just millimeters away from popping out of skin tight white uniforms. You will also believe that nurses always wear white garters, fishnet hose, and stilettos. This, of course, is a handy dress code because movie nurses spend *a lot* of time hopping in and out of patient's beds.

The reality is that most nurses wear scrubs - Shapeless, draping hunks of cotton that could cause you to breeze past Pamela Anderson without a second look. Shoes are white and chunky with blobs of things on them better left
Unexplored. Socks replace white hose and garters, and when is the last time Anyone saw a nursing cap? Graduation, perhaps?

The Nurse as an Angel:

If you want to hear the latest gross jokes, just find a nurse. Some uninformed males seem to think of nurses as angelic creatures: demure and loving, a cross between a nun and their mom. Well, hate to bust your bubble, guy, but as a group, nurses are some of the rawest folks you'll ever run
into. I don't care how sweet and demure they may look on the outside; inside is someone who has seen things that would gag a maggot, break your heart, or Drive a normal person nuts. So most nurses develop a very wicked sense of humor squarely lodged in the black-to-sick side of the scale.

Also, in case you are looking for angelic sympathy for the little boo-boo you had in the shop, forget it! Let's say as a typical male klutz, you manage to saw your finger off. You go running to your nurse wife who is on the phone with a nurse friend of hers. As she continues to talk to her
friend, she gives the stub a good eyeballing, slaps a towel on it, takes out a baggy to put the severed digit in, and tells you to get some ice while she is explaining to her friend that her dummy husband just sawed his finger off. As you stand there bleeding profusely for 15 minutes she calmly
finishes her conversation as though nothing is going on until finally she says, "Well I guess I better get him to the hospital."She hangs up the phone, looks at you, sighs and calmly says, "Let's go."

You have just learned an important lesson. On the nurse scale of emergencies, yours is about a minus 9! As my wife has told me, "when you are on a ventilator, with six drips running, your head down and your feet up, then you're sick. Anything less than that isn't worth getting excited over!"

The Nurses Mutual Benefit Network:

As a male either dating or married to a nurse, you should realize one important thing. There are nurses everywhere. That, in itself, is no big deal. The fact is, every nurse knows other nurses who know more nurses, so that by the time you are finished, a nurse on the Island Nation of Chuuk who
observes you doing something you shouldn't has the immediate capability of getting word to your wife. This system is way more reliable and efficient than the Internet and has existed for a much longer time. Take it for
granted that your nurse wife will know about anything you have done, good or bad, before you get home!

Your Social Life with Nurses:

Nurses hang out with other nurses and soon you may find that all your friends are married to nurses. The reason this happens is because in situations where nurses mingle with nonmedical folks things can get ugly. For example, you are out to dinner with your nurse wife, another nurse
couple, and two civilian couples. The nurses sit and chat, discussing fun things like bleeding bowels, open sores, how much fat was sucked out of some patient, projectile vomiting, traumatic amputations, etc., all over a nice
pasta dinner. The nurses carry on talking as the civilian couples turn funny colors, make faces and suppress their gag reflexes (and this is if the nurses don't have any really gross things to share like the homeless guy with maggots in his bleeding sores)!

After several dinners and gatherings like this, you will soon find your circle of friends has shrunk significantly. The key to avoiding this is to do the following: Never go out in mixed groups with more than one nurse. A lone nurse is OK. The trouble starts when you have more than one, and when
that happens, keep the regular folks away. Also get used to the idea that some friends and neighbors will take advantage of the fact that your wife is a nurse by calling at all hours of the day and night for advice. This may include male friends "dropping by" to show your sweetie his rash. The best
advice I can give is to just deal with it and hope it isn't contagious.

Nurse: The Health Ramifications

Most nurses have been described as having the constitution of horses, which isn't true because I've been around horses and they get sick more often. The reason for this is pretty simple. After about 3-5 years on the job, nurses have been exposed to so many bugs that they either end up dead or full of every antibody known to mankind. (If you want the ultimate booster shot, just get a blood transfusion from a nurse who's worked in a hospital for 20 years!) You don't have all these antibodies, though, so when she does come
home with mild sniffles, a week later you're flat on your back with the worse case of the flu of your life!! Oh, and if you are the least bit squeamish, don't even think about the bugs she brings home on her clothes. It will mess with your mind as she talks about her Resistant TB patient, the patient full of body lice, or the one with poison ivy in his mouth! So don't
ask.

Conclusion:

Ah such mysterious, wondrous creatures are nurses.

You know, they really are and I thank God every day for my nurse!

 

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51 Comments

No. 1 from zambezi

Nov 01, 2003, 11:46 PM This absolutely cracks me up...it is so perfect! I am printing it and bringing it to work....

 

No. 2 from nowplayingEDRN

Nov 02, 2003, 12:02 AM I wanna know who told them about me.......hehehehehehehehehe :chuckle :chuckle :chuckle

 

No. 3 from sleep deprived

Nov 02, 2003, 07:00 AM i think you have done an outstanding job describing us nurses!!!!!!!

 

No. 4 from RN~in~CT

Nov 02, 2003, 10:25 AM Sounds about right to me! :chuckle

 

No. 5 from girlnurse83

Nov 17, 2003, 01:46 PM I love this ! I read it to my family and they laughed their butts off.:roll

 

No. 6 from VivaLasViejas

Nov 17, 2003, 02:33 PM This really tickled my husband's funny bone, as it did mine......this is just TOO descriptive of us!!:imbar :roll

 

No. 7 from JennyJ

Nov 17, 2003, 02:49 PM I love that!!! I can't stop laughing. Thank you!!!:chuckle

 

No. 8 from marymary

Aug 25, 2004, 08:40 PM Originally Posted by StatBlues My Life with a Nurse: A Man's Perspective Ah, such mysterious, wondrous creatures are nurses. What treasures lurk beneath those crisp, white uniforms....What young man doesn't have fantasies of discovering those secrets for himself. SCREEEEEECH!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reality check! I've been married to a nurse for more than a quarter of a century, and let me tell you, nurses are not what you expect (and I don't even care what you expect, because you are wrong)! Let's begin by tearing down some of the more famous assumptions about nurses right off the top: The Nurse as Sex Kitten: Any man who lived through the early seventies or has made it a point to rent such famous videos as "Night Duty Nurses" or "Student Nurses" or "Night Duty Student Nurses" or any one of several dozen nurse-centric skin flicks will mmediately believe that all nurses have heaving bosoms, just millimeters away from popping out of skin tight white uniforms. You will also believe that nurses always wear white garters, fishnet hose, and stilettos. This, of course, is a handy dress code because movie nurses spend *a lot* of time hopping in and out of patient's beds. The reality is that most nurses wear scrubs - Shapeless, draping hunks of cotton that could cause you to breeze past Pamela Anderson without a second look. Shoes are white and chunky with blobs of things on them better left Unexplored. Socks replace white hose and garters, and when is the last time Anyone saw a nursing cap? Graduation, perhaps? The Nurse as an Angel: If you want to hear the latest gross jokes, just find a nurse. Some uninformed males seem to think of nurses as angelic creatures: demure and loving, a cross between a nun and their mom. Well, hate to bust your bubble, guy, but as a group, nurses are some of the rawest folks you'll ever run into. I don't care how sweet and demure they may look on the outside; inside is someone who has seen things that would gag a maggot, break your heart, or Drive a normal person nuts. So most nurses develop a very wicked sense of humor squarely lodged in the black-to-sick side of the scale. Also, in case you are looking for angelic sympathy for the little boo-boo you had in the shop, forget it! Let's say as a typical male klutz, you manage to saw your finger off. You go running to your nurse wife who is on the phone with a nurse friend of hers. As she continues to talk to her friend, she gives the stub a good eyeballing, slaps a towel on it, takes out a baggy to put the severed digit in, and tells you to get some ice while she is explaining to her friend that her dummy husband just sawed his finger off. As you stand there bleeding profusely for 15 minutes she calmly finishes her conversation as though nothing is going on until finally she says, "Well I guess I better get him to the hospital."She hangs up the phone, looks at you, sighs and calmly says, "Let's go." You have just learned an important lesson. On the nurse scale of emergencies, yours is about a minus 9! As my wife has told me, "when you are on a ventilator, with six drips running, your head down and your feet up, then you're sick. Anything less than that isn't worth getting excited over!" The Nurses Mutual Benefit Network: As a male either dating or married to a nurse, you should realize one important thing. There are nurses everywhere. That, in itself, is no big deal. The fact is, every nurse knows other nurses who know more nurses, so that by the time you are finished, a nurse on the Island Nation of Chuuk who observes you doing something you shouldn't has the immediate capability of getting word to your wife. This system is way more reliable and efficient than the Internet and has existed for a much longer time. Take it for granted that your nurse wife will know about anything you have done, good or bad, before you get home! Your Social Life with Nurses: Nurses hang out with other nurses and soon you may find that all your friends are married to nurses. The reason this happens is because in situations where nurses mingle with nonmedical folks things can get ugly. For example, you are out to dinner with your nurse wife, another nurse couple, and two civilian couples. The nurses sit and chat, discussing fun things like bleeding bowels, open sores, how much fat was sucked out of some patient, projectile vomiting, traumatic amputations, etc., all over a nice pasta dinner. The nurses carry on talking as the civilian couples turn funny colors, make faces and suppress their gag reflexes (and this is if the nurses don't have any really gross things to share like the homeless guy with maggots in his bleeding sores)! After several dinners and gatherings like this, you will soon find your circle of friends has shrunk significantly. The key to avoiding this is to do the following: Never go out in mixed groups with more than one nurse. A lone nurse is OK. The trouble starts when you have more than one, and when that happens, keep the regular folks away. Also get used to the idea that some friends and neighbors will take advantage of the fact that your wife is a nurse by calling at all hours of the day and night for advice. This may include male friends "dropping by" to show your sweetie his rash. The best advice I can give is to just deal with it and hope it isn't contagious. Nurse: The Health Ramifications Most nurses have been described as having the constitution of horses, which isn't true because I've been around horses and they get sick more often. The reason for this is pretty simple. After about 3-5 years on the job, nurses have been exposed to so many bugs that they either end up dead or full of every antibody known to mankind. (If you want the ultimate booster shot, just get a blood transfusion from a nurse who's worked in a hospital for 20 years!) You don't have all these antibodies, though, so when she does come home with mild sniffles, a week later you're flat on your back with the worse case of the flu of your life!! Oh, and if you are the least bit squeamish, don't even think about the bugs she brings home on her clothes. It will mess with your mind as she talks about her Resistant TB patient, the patient full of body lice, or the one with poison ivy in his mouth! So don't ask. Conclusion: Ah such mysterious, wondrous creatures are nurses. You know, they really are and I thank God every day for my nurse!

reading Cat's email

Jenni, Anna has told me you have been reading Cat's email's as suspected. You need to understand something as your mother did also. People have privacy boundaries and a right to preserve them. I think your work culture has led you to believe that you have a right to snoop and pry into communication which is the property of others. Three times I asked you to stop snooping through my email. Our daughter is twelve and now thirteen and I'm sure you would do it again so you need to stop it or else it will revisit you later. Maybe if you focussed on supporting people as opposed to controlling them you could let this behaviour go. In only 5 years Cat will be going to some form of schoolies week with drugs and alcohol being present. Through manipulation of the legal system you have removed her Father figure so you better work hard at being both parents and giving her the life skills to cope. She won't have a protected Pat/Jenni Bliss life or grow up in a 1950's style nursing home with nuns. Welcome to modern life Jenni. It's going to become a reality suddenly for you. I'll be ready though.

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Emotional Blackmail

Hi darl. I saw Anna yesterday and she told me Jenni had fb'd her and told her she would never let you see me because I'm into emotional blackmail. Bizarre. You can Google it to get the exact meaning but basically it means that someone might say to you "if you don't make cookies for Coffee Select I won't love you" or another example I'm sure you could think of. I know I've never done this too you and have always loved you unconditionally. I can only think that this is just another continuation of the crazy behaviour we saw in the house over the past few years that no one wants to address - including Pat. It is easy for a women/mother to demonise a man/father in our society so I guess this is a hook she has developed in her head and wants to preach to other people - like the letters to Alison.

Jenni and I have had very different upbringings in which she has always lived at home under the protection of her parents while I left home at 18. Moving away from your parents as an adult allows you to experience reality and think about how to survive, get ahead, take chances and PROTECT what you have gained. Whether you choose to do that will be your decision at the time and I'm sure Jenni will want you to stay with her until you're thirty. In respect to the issue of emotional blackmail which I'm accused of that also is a decision you can make on reflection. If you think I'm guilty of it I know you will quickly recognise whether I am, tell me so and explain that either you don't want to see it or don't want to see me. Simple. The only actions I can think of that might fall into this category is when I have retreated from a crazy or heated situation in order to defuse it.

 As I am the only parent who seems to be able to self reflect and make a judgement I often choose to retreat and let her win the battle. After my experience with the law and it's bias I know see it as a bloody good idea and one that most people would suggest. As Jenni fails to understand the concept of loss and has only ever been protected she rarely gives in and seeks resolution. she just keeps pushing until she gets her own way or someone comes in to assist her.

This is an issue you're going to have to live with in the next few years so I will understand it if it creates an issue for you. At any rate, regarding our contact there is only time that will sort out the mess created by the court and stubborn approach. In time you can decide whether you want to see me and when and how long. Until then I will stop trying to seek contact, fairness or correction by the system because their actions in the courts to separate us have definately been emotional blackmail and your mother and grandmother didn't need to take that action. But it was too easy for them to buy their way out of the issues we had instead of discuss them.

with this decision I'm sure I'll be accused of emotional blackmail. lol. That's what it's like trying to please some women. You just can never win.

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Cat's 13th Birthday

Roger Blackwell	8:58 AM (15 minutes ago)
to Timothy, Lauren, Jenni

Your client (and I guess that includes you also Tim) demonstrated just how immature and childish she can be yesterday when she wouldn't allow my daughter to make contact with me on her 13th birthday. This is what your system and the law which Mr Mulvany informed me I should respect does to Fathers. I don't. I shouldn't as it only protects bad behaviour and lies. While a lot of men around the country (70,000 last estimate) decline to make contact with their children those that make an effort face the bitchy, mean and childish behaviour of a woman protected by her mother and a money driven system. So are we a civilised first world country? Well maybe economically but legally your profession is stuck in the dark ages and can't deal with this behaviour so the men pay the price. So much for equality. So much for humanity.  What's very interesting to learn about Australia is the further you go North the more humanity can be found. My child will see this one day and know what I mean. She needs some time away from the self centred professionals who LIE for a living to understand it. She will see it very clearly one day. She has been used as a pawn and you endorsed it.

I'll just keep recording these events for her children to read. Karma has a funny way of revealing the truth.

Happy Birthday

Hi Babe,

A big Happy Birthday baby. Now a teenager! I've spent the past few days scanning all the photos I have of you growing up and will post them on this blog for you to enjoy. I feel numb and angry not being there to celebrate and of course wish I could. They wanted chaos and bought it with their money. I have to concentrate on our future though and this week I start my new job with Berg Engineering with the offices being in the Northern suburbs. I'm looking at 2 bedroom units right in the heart of the CBD for the benefits of public transport and everything in the city, river, ferries, etc. Have a great day and keep reminding your Mother of your needs.

Love you. xo

Dad

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It is fatherhood that makes childhood possible.

by Daniel Amneus
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A judge will try a divorce case in the morning and place the children in the mother's custody. He will try a criminal case in the afternoon and send a man to prison for robbing a liquor store. The chances are three out of four that the criminal he sends to prison grew up in a female headed household just like the one he himself created that morning when he tried the divorce case.[1] He can't see any connection between the two cases. The time lag prevents him: the kids he placed in the mother's custody were toddlers and the criminal he sent to prison was in his teens or twenties. Toddlers don't rob liquor stores.
Besides, most fatherless boys don't grow up to rob liquor stores and most fatherless girls don't grow up to breed illegitimate children. Therefore what? Therefore the legal policy of giving custody to mothers is OK? Therefore we can ignore the increased probability that fatherlessness will create delinquency?
This is the "safe drunk driver argument." Most drunk drivers don't get in accidents. They get home safely and sleep it off. Therefore drunk driving is OK.
It's not OK. And exiling fathers from families is not OK. The fact that will not go away is stated by sociologist David Popenoe in his book Life Without Father:

The negative consequences of fatherlessness are all around us. They affect children, women, and men. Evidence indicating damage to children has accumulated in near tidal-wave proportions. Fatherless children experience significantly more physical, emotional, and behavioral problems than do children growing up in intact families.

Why do Judges routinely award custody of children to mothers when they try a divorce case? Two reasons. The first is that motherhood is more solidly based in biology. Motherhood is a biological fact, as Margaret Mead says, fatherhood merely a social invention. Mammals and motherhood originated two hundred million years ago, when the dinosaurs were young. Fatherhood in the sense of major male participation in reproduction is, from the point of view of evolution, a recent development. Fatherhood in the sense of male headship of the stable patriarchal families which make civilization possible is only about five thousand years old, as feminist Dr. Gerda Lerner has shown in her book The Creation of Patriarchy. Prior to the Patriarchal Revolution human reproduction followed the ghetto pattern, where the mother was the primary parent, and the father was a mere boyfriend who could be discarded when the mother got tired of him.
The second reason why judges favor mother custody is their recognition that women and children are dependent creatures. This was formerly understood to mean they needed husbands and fathers. But husbands and fathers require authority if they are to function as providers and protectors. ("He shall rule over thee," God says to Eve, Genesis 3:16.) Without the sexual loyalty of wives there can be no family. Patriarchal civilization depends on female chastity. Without it men cannot have families and children cannot have fathers.
This is the hitch, the reason we have a feminist revolution: Females dislike sexual regulation. Feminists say "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle," "A woman has a sacred right to control her own sexuality," "End human sacrifice! Don't get married!" Women's primary object, according to feminist Anne Donchin, is to create a society in which "women can shape their reproductive experiences to further ends of their own choosing."
This is the feminist program. It's succeeding. Marriage is becoming meaningless. "Family law," says Brenda Hoggett, former British law commissioner responsible for family law,

no longer makes any attempt to buttress the stability of marriage or any other union. It has adopted principles for the protection of children and dependent spouses which could be made equally applicable to the unmarried. In such circumstances, the piecemeal erosion of the distinction between marriage and non-married cohabitation may be expected to continue. Logically we have already reached a point at which, rather than discussing which remedies should now be extended to the unmarried, we should be considering whether the legal institution of marriage continues to serve any useful purpose.

The emphasized sentence means marriage no longer grants the husband any rights whatever--only the obligation of giving up his children and accepting slavery--laboring for the benefit of another person, his ex-wife. (Or equally his ex-girlfriend, since marriage makes no difference.) "The courts have abandoned," says Ms. Hoggett,

the concept of breach of matrimonial obligations--and their powers of adjustment of property interests in the long term are now so extensive that ordering one spouse from his own home no longer seems so drastic. Far from ordering spouses to stay together, courts are increasingly able and willing to help them separate.

This is the female kinship system, matriarchy, the condition of the ghettos--made tolerable for the female by the male's acceptance of slavery.
A Georgia judge named Robert Noland shows how the legal system thinks: "I ain't never seen a calf following a bull. They always follow the cow. So I always give custody to the mammas." The reason Judge Noland never saw a calf following a bull is that cattle don't live in two-parent households. If we want to live like cattle, Judge Noland has the right idea. But human beings differ from cattle and the difference is created by fathers.
A green turtle--a reptile--begins its existence as an egg and never learns it has a mother or a father. Its mother's participation in its existence consists of conceiving and gestating it and burying the resulting egg in the sand. After remaining there and maturing awhile, it emerges from the sand and waddles down to the water to find a meal--or to become a meal for some other creature. It is self contained and lives on its own inherited resources or it dies.
Mammals came into existence during the Age of Reptiles. Mammalian mothers cherish their young, feed them from their own body, protect them, educate them. If you have a cat with kittens you can witness how mammalian motherhood works--how meaningful motherhood is, and how irrelevant merely biological fatherhood is once the father has performed his minuscule sexual function. Motherhood enables the kitten to have an infancy. This is the relationship which Judge Noland understands and seeks to preserve by awarding custody to mothers.
The kitten has no childhood. After a rather short period of helpless infancy, the kitten is almost suddenly a mature adult capable of fending for itself like the baby turtle after it emerges from its egg.
It was John Fiske, the nineteenth century American historian and philosopher, who pointed out what made human beings special-- and more successful than other mammals: the prolongation not only of infancy, but the creation of a whole additional era of life, childhood, something unknown in any other species--so that human children can enjoy an enormously long period during which they are protected, cherished, educable, playful, exploratory, sensitive and aware, a period during which they can reach out and learn about and come to love the world they live in.
It is fatherhood which makes childhood possible. It is father absence which creates ghettos and gangs and messed-up kids--boys trying to find their identity through violence, girls trying to find their identity through sexual promiscuity, which will lead to the violence of the next generation. They need real fathers, "sociological fathers," not mere studs interested in sharing a one- night stand with Mom.
Sociological fatherhood is real fatherhood, as Margaret Mead says, "a social invention." In the ghettos the biological fathers are seldom sociological fathers. They aren't good for much because Mom's sexual disloyalty denies them the role of sociological fatherhood. Lawmakers and politicians don't understand what Margaret Mead tells them, that fatherhood is a social invention, that it must be created and maintained by society. They suppose, as Judge Robert Noland supposes, that humans can live like cattle, without fathers.
Until lawmakers and judges see that they must support the father's role because it is the weak link in the family we will have more matriarchy--along with its familiar accompaniments: crime, educational failure, illegitimacy, teen suicide, gangs and the rest.
Notes: 1. 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home Fulton Co. Georgia Jail Populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections, 1992. Statistics from other states show similar results.

The Importance of Fathers

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Today a quiet but thoroughly monumental revolution is taking place in the American family. The number of fathers solely responsible for the care of their children is growing at a rate almost twice that of single mothers. Fully one-fifth of single parents today are single fathers -- more than 2 million of them.
This is up from 1970, when single mother households comprised approximately 90 percent of the single family population. Among minorities, the rate of increase is as high, or higher: between 1970-1995, the rate of African-American single dads increased 329%; for Hispanic single fathers, 450%. And though the media almost always focus on mothers when portraying working single parents, nearly 30 percent of working single parents are now men. -- Jeff Gillenkirk, in A Revolution in American Fathering

A Revolution in American Fathering This is about fathers crying, cooking, being afraid, braiding hair, waiting with children at the doctor's office, the principal's office, after school at the soccer field. The bottom line is, more and more men are choosing to be hands-on, hearts-on fathers than ever before.

Reclaiming Fatherhood Fatherhood: fixing man's broken chain of progenisis. A look at what needs to change in order for fathers to be more openly and actively involved in the raising of their children.

Fathers Are Essential Scores of research studies have documented the positive effects of involved fathers.

Father's World Of all the objects of my childhood, these are the ones that represent my dearest childhood memories of spending time with my father.

Columbine: Chaos and Control To think that a particular parenting style will keep our children sheltered from the horrors of this world is ludicrous. The best we can do for our child is be present as life washes over him.

Father of My Soul My father was a virgin when I was born. I wondered if I would ever be as much a father to my children as my father had been to me.

Father of My Soul - page two I wondered if I would ever be as much a father to my children as my father had been to me. My father was a virgin when I was born.

In Search of a History The Preamble, the Declaration of Independence, and the Gettysburg Address are the sacred scriptures of this nation.

Fatherless Boys at Risk Those boys whose fathers were absent from the household had double the odds of being incarcerated -- even when other factors such as race, income, parent education and urban residence were held constant.

Children in Single-Mom Households "at Risk" - What do we do about it? The fact that children raised by single mothers are at increased risk is found over and over again.

Of Statistics, Single Mothers and the Politics of Language Studies show that, overwhelmingly, children being raised in homes with both a mother and a father enjoy a lot of benefits that children from single parent homes do not.

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Things Handed Down As most new fathers do, I find myself watching my son as he plays, thinking about the responsibility I have to him. It's a wonderful, albeit intimidating, thing. Knowing that I will guide this precious little person from infancy to manhood is something I don't take lightly.

Daddy Oh Daddy, Where Have You Gone? In order to qualify for most of the free government funds, the women must first physically acquire, in some manner, one or more children.

The Case for Father Custody Human beings differ from cattle and the difference is created by fathers. Daniel Amneus makes the case for fathers getting custody of their children. "It is fatherhood which makes childhood possible."

Fathers in the News Items in the news of interest to fathers: links to news items on other sites.

Classical Fathering vs Judeo-Christian Model We interview historian Frederick Hodges about raising children with classical Western values by avoiding the methods imposed on the West by Middle-Eastern religions.

What My Father Taught Me Full-Time Dads Magazine asked correspondents to share something special that their father taught them.

Dads Are Important: A True Story of What Fathers Do Jack Kammer's story shows us how fathers affect the lives of teenage boys.

Fatherless Homes Breed Violence Eighty percent of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior).

Fatherless Boys Grow Up Into Dangerous Men. Maggie Gallagher in The Wall Street Journal. A look at how family structure affects serious crime. - excerpted from The Wall Street Journal.

Study Finds Teen Pregnancy and Crime Levels are Higher Among Kids from Fatherless Homes Children reared in fatherless homes are more than twice as likely to become male adolescent delinquents or teen mothers, according to a significant new study by two economists at the University of California, Santa Barbara.

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