Jenni,

Despite your intervention order being an abuse of an instrument to protect women who are truly under threat you have used it to silence a loving Father of a beautiful girl who loves me and vice versa. You have also convinced family and frinds that this was occuring. This is not fair or in anyway reasonable in a modern society. In respect to the issue of violence which you hidden behind and the court has found as a hook to create bias you were just as "physical" with me including hair pulling, throwing of objects, name calling, scratching and gouging etc but that's all in the past and Cat still has needs. All this Catia can confirm and I wasn't prepared to be an abused man.

Under the intepretation of violence by The Family Court every politician in our Parliament could be labelled as violent men or women. This does not reflect how human beings live in a country with free speech and equality in the home and workplace.

While using the protection of an intervention order you have sent me abusive text messages, called my ex girlfriends making disparaging comments and permitted my daughter to call me on Father's Day. She has asked me not to give up. To keep fighting for her rights. She thinks you are thinking only of yourself. When I tell her I've had enough of your silence and the bias she feels the need to solve it herself. She tells me, "don't worry I'll sort it out". This is the implication of your refusal to communicate for periods of time. It's just childish in the extreme and quite frankly I've had a lifetime of being on the end of females who choose to act in a feral manner.

If you watched Sunrise this morning you would have seen that no reasonable thinking person believes that these issues (child custody) should be before the courts - only the most extreme. and the only reason we were before the courts was because Pat interferred in our life and marriage to protect her investment and you wouldn't communicate.

I know you want too keep punishing me using her and creating danger which never existed you will only hurt her.

You can keep being critical of me for the rest of your life - whatever. My parents are the same. I now recognise it is a manifestation of the feminist movement and 1960's attitudes toward men which your mother held and have been adopted by you and still exist in the health and education systems but have long disappeared from other professional circles. That is why we are so far apart and why you will hold negative attitudes toward men like me and be forever critical.

My daughter doesn't hold the same attitudes and is won't be willing to take those on as you have. In fact I doubt she ever will so the longer you prevent her from seeing me and try and punish and demonise me the more it will affect you and certainly her but not necessarily me. I am in the position of living the life I want in an industry that is in boom times but I continue to make the effort to change your stubborn mind for her sake. Your weapons are stubbornness and verbal attack. Helen was the same. I walked away from her but I care for Cat's RIGHT to have positive experiences as she grows up. I am sad that you have never had a reference to growing up in the North of Australia because you would understand what i mean in terms of the relaxed attitudes and the enjoyment of life and the immediate environment.

You know my daughter and I had a great relationship. You know I am a good man and a lover of life and people. You have told me so in the past. It's only your desire to make a change in your life that created a change in attitude. My daughter believes and has told me I am a great Father. Do you want to deny her the ability to exercise her choice and desire to see her Father?
How long do you think you can exercise control over her? If you butt up against her she will make it as hard as she wants. You only have one daughter so surely you want to maintain a good relationship with her over your life.

You should understand how fortunate you are. There are many women in the situation in which their ex partners have NO interest in their kids. That is a reality across Australia. Even men who have sons don't want to stay in touch with them at anytime of the year even Christmas. I know what that feels like. It is degrading and creates a sense of being useless and undervalued.

It's past time you started communicating about such an important issue as Cat's needs. If you don't the longer this goes on the more you will create a gap between you and her. She will resent you for it and trust me resentment has a long memory.


In response to your suggestions I move on with my life I don't even need to comment. The proof is there in front of you despite your efforts to be destructive in the extreme. Oh and your prediction that I would find a "yes" woman could not be further from the truth. Sorry.

I hope you can start to consider Catia's needs now she is a teenager and is still lucky enough to have two parents.